Does it seem to you like in today’s society, everyone wins? Do you feel like people get rewarded just for showing up now? Have you heard something like, “Hey the other team outscored you by fifteen runs but we want you to feel good about yourself, so you win too!”?
Yesterday I wrote about how I had a professor in graduate school who would often ruminate on this idea. Today, I want to talk about what if he was wrong. What I actually want to talk about is what if he was wrong about the idea that everyone should not win? Should everyone win?
If everyone should win, aren’t there some other things that should be true too?
- First, if he was wrong, there are hours of my life I’ve lost to this discussion. I’ll never get those hours back.
- Secondly, if he was wrong you probably do not want to be his kid. Think about how bad that would be! Think about all the trophies and medals you would lose out on.
- If everyone wins, then shouldn’t everyone get paid the same? Shouldn’t the guy who’s put no time in going to school get paid the same as the guy who has done all the training and who has worked hard to learn more? Shouldn’t the woman who is only slightly skilled at her job get paid the same as the woman who is extremely skilled? To be fair, shouldn’t everyone get paid the same just for showing up? Shouldn’t management and labor get the same exact pay? Where do we limit our quest for fairness? Shouldn’t all students be simply given a pass/fail? Forget grades.
Obviously, I think he’s right. I think our society is constantly moving towards an everyone should win mentality. I also think it is having negative effects on our children and society.
Tomorrow, I will discuss why I think he’s right. I’ll offer some anecdotal evidence and some clinical evidence.