Conflict is something we all have in life. No matter how good the relationship, people disagree. Typically, we do everything we can to avoid conflict. Some people use aggression to blow the conflict up while others use passiveness and run away. Probably most of us fit somewhere in the middle of those two positions. But how do we navigate conflict in a manner that really is constructive?
Can two people disagree about politics and still truly be friends?
Can two people be really angry with each other and still engage in a way that doesn’t destroy people? I believe the answer is yes. I want to start a series (that will not be regular) on conflict and conflict resolution. Below you will find what we call the 6 Rules of Communication. I believe if you use them, you will find that they can change almost every relationship in your life. I will list them here and come back and pick them up at a later time to break each one down.
- 1.Facts Only—Be Honest
- 2.Today’s News—Deal with the current issue
- 3.Issues Only—Talk about the problem not the person
- 4.Be Intentional (don’t react)—Find a way to build your spouse up even while disagreeing.
- 5.ALWAYS avoid always and NEVER say never
- 6.Does “IT” have to be a problem?