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Mississippi player kicked off team after wearing pink cleats - Prep Rally - High School  - Yahoo! Sports

As Sheppard explains in the video above, courtesy of WLBT.com, coaches ridiculed the kicker for wearing the shoes during the prior game, but he showed up for the team's Monday practice wearing the pink cleats regardless. Now the senior, who relied on academic credit from playing football to help fulfill graduation requirements, might not receive his diploma on time.

via rivals.yahoo.com

What do you think? Coach or kid out of control?


Denounced anonymously for “seeking Christian roommate” request

“Our interest really lies in her getting some training so that this doesn’t happen again,” she said.

via overlawyered.com

 

What do you think about this? A woman posts an ad for a roommate on her church bulletin board but says she's looking for a Christian. Gets reported to the state anonymously and the state just wants to educate her.

Government doing good, or Big Brother run amok?


My son is gay « Nerdy Apple Bottom (is this bullying)

Or he’s not. I don’t care. He is still my son. And he is 5. And I am his mother. And if you have a problem with anything mentioned above, I don’t want to know you.

via nerdyapplebottom.com

Ok, so here's my question is this bullying? I mean, when I read the article, the reactions of the women made my stomach turn, but are they actually bullying the woman and her son as she suggests? I agree with much of what the writer has to say, but I do wonder what makes this bullying.  What do you think?


When bullies come...

My wife shared a heartbreaking story with me the other day. She was talking to someone whose child was bullied at school. The child had been told that a party ended at a certain time so the parents came to pick her up at what they thought was the appointed time.

It turns out the party was actually an all night sleep over. Obviously, the kid was crushed. The parents were hurt and in the end, no one was better off for having gone through this event.  My wife commented to me that she wondered where the parents were at when this was going on. I told her that the parents (of the uncharitable children) probably had no idea what was going on.

Later, I rethought that position.

I wonder if the parents did not accidentally add to the story. I wonder if the parents did not say to the children that they had to invite the one that they did not like. In other words, I wonder if they did not say to their sons that they had to invite the son of the person my wife was talking with. In an effort to be kind, did they create more hurt.

See, this is where the whole story gets a bit kinked for me. If these kids did not like this person, I do not know if I think they had to invite him. If they find him to be odd (to be fair, I've met this person and I'm not sure how that I would be friends), I am not sure that they have to hang out together just because they are on a sports team together.

Yes, I can see how this would be hurtful for the child. Yes, my heart would break if it were one of my children. No, that does not mean it would be wrong.  It just means that it would hurt. To my knowledge, this was not an official team event—if it was then I would absolutely think that the child must be included.

This stickier issue for me to work through here is the question of what exactly is bullying. It seems I cannot get online, turn on the TV or the radio today without hearing about it. To be honest, I feel that I was bullied when I was a child. I am certain that there are people who feel that I bullied them when we were in school together. There are a few that I even feel I bullied—I say that to my shame. We're facebook friends today. I even saw a street preacher who claimed to be bullied by people standing with signs in his church service. 

My children have a written pledge that hangs throughout their school that they do not have to put up with bullying. I think all of this is great. I am glad that my children know there are resources available to them if they are bullied and that they have other people telling them it is not ok to bully anyone. I affirm that whole-heartedly. Conversations starting about this are important and necessary. Beyond conversations, action is even more crucial. We need to stop people from hurting other people.

I am just looking for a more clear definition than what I am currently hearing. I am excited that we, as a society are looking at this problem and that we are working to understand it. I am also afraid that we are moving to a point where any time someone disagrees with me, I am going to be able to call that bullying.  I have a great fear that we have already lost the ability to disagree agreeably and I cannot help but wonder if the problem will not be exacerbated if we do not do a better job at creating space for disagreeable conversations.

 

 

 


America and the ‘Fun’ Generation - NYTimes.com

CAMBRIDGE, MASSACHUSETTS — From the first years of the American republic, a quiet battle has simmered over the words that denote the nation’s soul. And now a count can declare the victors: “achievement” and “fun.”

via www.nytimes.com

Heard about this article via stayoutofschool.com. What are your thoughts about it? Have we lost sight of excellence? What do you think this implies for our marriages and relationships? How often do we sacrifice excellence for achievement?